Ministry can be one of the most rewarding callings—and sometimes one of the loneliest. Finding friends who truly understand the joys and challenges of ministry life is essential for your well-being and growth. Whether you’re new to ministry or simply looking to expand your circle, here are 10 ways to build friendships with others in ministry:

Join a Group in Your Area

• Many regions have church leader associations or ministerial groups that meet regularly for fellowship and support. Check if there’s one near you and attend a meeting—it’s a great way to meet others in your local area who share similar experiences. Although you may not agree with or align on everything, the support and encouragement can be incredibly life-giving.

Attend Conferences and Retreats

• Whether it’s a preaching festival, denominational retreat, or a ministry leadership conference, these events are prime opportunities to connect with others. Take the time to introduce yourself and engage in conversations over coffee breaks. Seriously, it can be as easy as “so how far did you travel to get here?” or “What inspired you to sign up for this event?”

Connect Online Through Facebook Groups

• There are countless online communities for ministry leaders, from youth ministry networks to pastor support groups. Joining a group lets you interact with others facing similar challenges, share resources, and find encouragement. We wrote a whole post about Facebook groups - check it out.

Host a Workshop or Training Event

• Organize a workshop or training for local ministry leaders on a topic you’re passionate about. It’s a great way to share your skills and meet others who are eager to learn and collaborate. P.s. Ministry Forum is here to help you brainstorm, plan, and run events like this - let us in on your ideas!

Collaborate on Ministry Projects

Partner with other local churches or ministries on a joint project, like a community outreach event, special worship service (think Blue Christmas or Stations of the Cross), justice rally, or youth retreat. Working alongside others naturally creates space for deeper connections.

Be Active in Denominational Networks

• Connect with other leaders in your Presbytery or Synod outside of regularly scheduled meetings. Go on a retreat, get together for breakfast or beers, or schedule a regular zoom chat to just connect, vent or pray for each other.

Reach Out to New Ministry Leaders

• If you hear about a new ministry leader in your area, reach out and welcome them. A friendly email or a quick coffee invite can lead to meaningful friendships that last.

Participate in Online Workshops and Webinars

• These are great places to engage with others and often include small group discussions or follow-up connections. Ministry Forum hosts a monthly “We Need to Listen” discussion group focused on creating and nurturing community among leaders. We’ve also launched a Newer Minister’s Forum - a monthly group for those who are less than 8 years into their congregational call (send us an email and we’ll get you the details).

Share Resources and Encourage Others

Sometimes, the simplest way to build friendships is to support others. Share a book recommendation, a helpful article, or an encouraging note with a fellow leader. Small acts of kindness can open the door to deeper relationships.

Say Yes to Invitations

• Whether it’s an invitation to attend a church event, a community gathering, or even a casual game night, say yes when possible! Sometimes, the best friendships are formed when we step out of our comfort zones.

Remember: Ministry Is Not a Solo Journey!

Finding friends in ministry takes effort, but it’s worth it. Having people who understand and support you makes all the difference in sustaining a vibrant, faithful, and joyful ministry.